Maid of Honor goes above and beyond at BFF's wedding despite her nasty attitude, family reveals that any time MOH left a room, the bride bad-mouthed her: ‘She couldn’t stand me‘

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Nov 10, 2024 9:00 PM EST

As a bride's Maid of Honor, you're expected to do everything and more. You have to handle the bachelorette, the goodie bags, the "day of" morning apparel, and assist in dress shopping (among numerous other duties). Oftentimes, you'll feel a bit worn out because the MOH role is tolling on your body's capacity to handle stress.

But, it's all worth it, isn't it? After all, you're doing everything in your power to show the bride you care about them and how they'll feel on the day of their ceremony. When you find out the bride doesn't even like you anymore, even after asking so much of you, what do you do? 

A mixture of defeat, grief, and anger swims in your mind as you wonder where these feelings were before you dropped $6000 on the bride. The worst part about this story? The MOH didn't even hear this from the bride—it was from someone else in the wedding party. Scroll to read.

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    She also just stopped talking to me unless it was about the wedding, and had NO idea what was going on in my personal life.
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    I (MOH) just found out the bride talked sh behind my back the entire wedding day (but still had me plan/pay for everything)
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    I was asked to be MOH by a friend of mine who I've had a rocky past with. She doesn't really have anyone close in her life that lasts longer than a few years, and she also changes jobs every few months, because she is
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    HIGH CONFLICT and causes drama constantly. She thrives off of it. In hindsight - i should have said no. Especially knowing this was her and the grooms third engagement (so off/on). But i agreed and took everything so seriously.
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    Bridezilla was an understatement. She changed the members of the bridal party five times so I constantly had to track down new people. Her bridal shower HAD to be at this one very specific country club that
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    was EXPENSIVE. She changed the date of the actual wedding and forgot to tell me for months (and it was on a Friday, so i had to request off work). Nothing I bought was good enough.
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    and she always requested more, more, more. She changed my dress color after I bought it. She also just stopped talking to me unless it was about the wedding, and had NO idea what was going on in my personal life.
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    I paid for just about everything because the people she kept inviting in the bridal party were younger than us (early twenties, I'm 27, bride is 33) and have no stable income. I have a good job and am smart with my
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    money but even for me it was really difficult. I'm talking about $6000 on this wedding as MOH (and I'm trying to plan my own too!!)
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    Well day of the wedding comes, I make sure she has a bunch of custom gifts, a day off bag, my speech was beautiful, etc. But she was SO r de to me the entire day. She has a new BFF she met about four months before
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    the wedding and they are attached at the hip, and all she wanted to do was talk to her. But, whatever, i was super busy handling. everything so i tried to ignore it.
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    Wedding comes and goes, she leaves to go to the after party with her new BFF, and I stay behind to clean up the entire venue with the help. of my fiancé after, and we go home.
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    Well i get a call today from her cousin who was also in the wedding party, who i really bonded with over this awful experience. She told me that she didn't want to say anything to me, but
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    she thinks i deserve to know because Im already buying Christmas gifts for bride and her kids. Her cousin tells me that every time i left the bridal suite the day of the wedding,
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    the bride would announce to everyone in the room that "she couldn't stand me", "i wish she weren't even here", "i'm so ing annoying".
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    She also has a separate group chat with her sisters and cousins and continues to talk sh on me there. Mind you - she just sent me a Christmas list for
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    her kids last week. Everything is already bought and wrapped. I feel so hurt, and so used. And honestly really stupid. I just blocked her
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    on everything. I don't want to even message her because I know she'll somehow twist it around and make it my fault.
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    TLDR: bride talked sh on me the entire wedding and continues to do so, but hasn't said anything to my face, and still expects me to buy Christmas gifts for her kids.
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    ETA:: I'm seeing a lot of comments saying this is on me for missing/ignoring red flags, and i 100% agree. I should have gone more into the back story but it's super complicated
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    and long so i left it out: it used to be the step mother of her oldest son. So, her ex is also my ex (and he's a huge POS, but that's a story for another day). And im extremely bonded to the kiddo, i
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    was in his life from 9 months old. And she's allowed me to still be involved in his life for the past 4+ years even after i left the relationship (he's 7 now). So a huge part of me feels this immense,
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    incredible debt to her. And i will always appreciate her keeping me in her son's life - she didn't have to do that. But as MY friend, kids aside, she is incredibly selfish and toxic, and i should have made better
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    boundaries and kept my guard up. But wow that's easier said than done when kids are involved.
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